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You Don't Need to Have the Right Words

Whatever brought you here, start wherever you are. You don't need a diagnosis and you don't need to know exactly what kind of help you need.


SUPPORT

Start with respect, listening and the right next step

You do not need perfect words to support a man. A sincere question, a patient ear and practical follow-through can make a real difference. The aim is not to diagnose, lecture or force disclosure. It is to create enough safety for an honest conversation.

    How to check in

  • Choose a private, calm moment and remove distractions.

  • Begin naturally: “How are you keeping?” or “You have not seemed yourself lately. How are things?

  • Listen without interrupting, correcting, comparing or rushing to solve everything.

  • Acknowledge what you hear: “That sounds difficult. Thank you for telling me.

  • Ask what would help now and agree on one realistic next step..

  • Check in again. Consistent support matters more than one conversation.

FIND SUPPORT

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USE RESOURCES
What not to do
  • Do not ridicule, shame, threaten, preach at or gossip about the person.
  • Do not dismiss distress with “be strong,” “others have it worse” or “just get over it.
  • Do not promise absolute confidentiality where there is serious risk of harm
  • Do not present yourself as a therapist unless you are qualified and acting in that role.

    • Our support pathway

  • Connect: welcoming conversation and low-pressure community contact.
  • Strengthen: men's community, mentoring, activity, skills and practical support.
  • Guide: private listening, information and help navigating options.
  • Refer: connection to appropriately qualified professional or specialist services.
  • Follow up: agreed check-ins and continued community connection.

    • S.O.S.- Speak Up. Open Your Heart. Seek Support. You do not have to carry it alone.

    I NEED SUPPORT

    You don't need to explain everything here. Tell us briefly how we can help and how you would prefer us to contact you.

    First Name

    Preferred Contact Method

    Email Address

    Phone Number

    Best time to contact you

    What would you like help with?

    I JUST WANT TO TALK

    A private first conversation

    I JUST WANT TO TALK
    TALK TO SOMEONE

    I NEED PROFESSIONAL HELP

    Find appropriate counselling or specialist support.

    I NEED PROFESSIONAL HELP
    FIND SUPPORT

    I NEED PRACTICAL HELP

    Guidance towards appropriate financial, employment, family, legal or social resources.

    I NEED PRACTICAL HELP
    EXPLORE SUPPORT

    I WANT TO CONNECT WITH OTHER MEN

    Men's Haven, activities, mentoring and peer connection.

    I WANT TO CONNECT WITH OTHER MEN
    EXPLORE MEN'S HAVEN

    I'M WORRIED ABOUT ANOTHER MAN

    Guidance on approaching and supporting someone you are concerned about.

    I'M WORRIED ABOUT ANOTHER MAN
    HOW TO HELP

    I NEED URGENT HELP

    For someone who may be unable to remain safe or may harm himself or another person.

    I NEED URGENT HELP
    GET URGENT HELP
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